My Authentic Self

Sharon Gates


This page is about me, my authentic self. If you read these words and study these photos, you may understand a little about who I am.  If no one reads the page at all, that is all right too. I am publishing it for me.

The first thing you will probably notice is the wolves on this page. I am fascinated by the wolf. I would like to think my life style mirrors that of the wolf for the wolf has qualities I much admire. She is loyal, protective, instinctive, wild and free. She cooperates with the pack, teaches the young, plays when she can and hunts when she must. She shares her affections and voices her feelings. Would that I could live up to that credo!

"They say the wolf bestows its happy spirit to help people. Women who obtain this spirit become skilled in creative endeavors and experience a strengthening of the senses. I would like to think there is some truth to this in my own life." -Judi Rideout

Speaking of families, I have three children (Shayne, Cindy and Lana), all grown now, and three granddaughters (Kendra, Adara and Larissa) and one grandson, Jaden. They do not live near by, but we get together a few times a year. We are close and try to keep it that way...

Family is important to me and my children. We have shared much and have grown together in many ways. They all like the outdoors and even though they live in cities, have country roots. They like working with people and have jobs that reflect that. They all like animals as well, especially dogs.

"Call it a clan, call it a network, call it a tribe, call it a family. Whatever you call it, whoever you are, you need one." Jane Howard

Just as important to me as my family are my friends. I am truly blessed with wonderful friends. Remember the wolf? Those qualities are the stuff that friendships are made of, especially loyalty. I value my friendships and am at the same time humbled by them.

"A tree is known by its fruit; a man by his deeds. A good deed is never lost; he who sows courtesy reaps friendship, and he who plants kindness gathers love."
-- Saint Basil (329-379 A.D.), Bishop of Caesarea

I suppose it's not necessary to say I love my horses, since that is evident throughout Wildwood Reining Horses web site. In case you have any doubts, here are a few of my favourite pictures.

Horses have been a constant throughout my ever changing life. They ground me when I am lost and feed my soul when it is starving. I sometimes think I relate more to horses than to people.

"In the steady gaze of the horse shines a silent eloquence that speaks of love, loyalty, strength and courage. It is the window that reveals to us how willing is his spirit, how generous his heart."
-L. McGuire

I also love my dog. I have had Samoyeds for many years and raised puppies in the 70's and 80's. Kirby is my buddy and although she is independent like her owner, she is loyal and non-judgmental. On March 14, 2010, Kirby will be celebrating her 12th birthday. She has lived longer than any of my previous Samoyeds and every birthday is a gift...

"She is your friend, your partner, your defender, your dog. You are her life, her love, her leader. She will be yours, faithful and true, to the last beat of her heart. You owe it to her to be worthy of such devotion." - Unknown

I like to garden. It started out of necessity, for in the early years with growing family, I depended on the garden vegetables  to lighten the grocery bill! Now, I just love the vegetables and have recently started growing herbs.

Of all the flowers I love roses the best. Fresh cut roses adorned my table for many months of the year in Armstrong, but now that I live in the Chilcotin, growing roses is more difficult. I have substituted other flowers!

"To me the meanest flower that blows can give thoughts that do often lie too deep for tears." Wordsworth - Intimations of Immortality


I have spent a great deal of time outdoors throughout my life. My life work training horses kept me outdoors of course, but if I could I would spend any "days off" trail riding in the mountains. The stillness, the greatness and the solitude bring both my horses and I back to center.

"No hour of life is wasted that is spent in the saddle"   --Winston Churchill

... And I love to cook. I bake my bread still. I like it better than anything I can buy! I prepare most meals from scratch. With all the vegetables I grow, many meals are rounded out by the garden.

Music has always played a part of my life. At an early age, I learned to play violin, then picked up piano and guitar. I sing, although not too well and not very much any more. All kinds of music appeal to me, but especially those with a strong beat or those that evoke emotion. Some of my all time favorites are: Homeland (from Spirit, Stallion of the Cimarron), Amazing Grace, Circle of Life (from The Lion King), The Rose (Bette Midler).

I like CCR, Andrea Boccelli, Bette Midler, Van Morrison, Steve Earle,  Garth Brooks, Randy Travis, Faith Hill, Elvis Presley, Willie Nelson, Dollie Parton, Josh Groban to name a few.

"Music should strike fear from the heart of man, and bring tears from the eyes of woman." - Beethovan

I leave you with a quote I only recently found. It is how I felt on one of my trail rides in the mountains. I knew I was completely alone - alone in a vast wilderness - and I loved it.....

	A certain day became a presence to me;
        	there it was, confronting me--a sky, air, light:
        	a being. And before it started to descend
        	from the height of noon, it leaned over
        	and struck my shoulder as if with
        	the flat of a sword, granting me
        	honor and a task. The day's blow
        	rang out, metallic--or it was I, a bell awakened,
        	and what I heard was my whole self
        	saying and singing what it knew: I can.
                                        --Denise Levertov